A neurodivergent therapist''s guide to better empathy for everyone Empathy, we''re told, is what makes us human: our innate ability to connect. But the classic stereotype of autistic people is that they can''t empathise. However intellectually brilliant they might be, their brains are not ''wired'' for connection. As an autistic psychotherapist, who empathises for a living, Aimee Cliff knew that this wasn''t true. Empathy isn''t an individual personality trait, a marker of virtue or vice; it is an act between two people, one that we choose to practice every day. How to Read Minds playfully offers a new idea of empathy, one with a more exciting and expansive definition. For real empathy fights against the constrictive straitjackets of stereotypes, and dares to imagine something new. It''s liberatory, radical and accessible to everyone. Drawing on her clinical experience, alongside interviews with a wide range of neurodivergent people, Cliff interrogates the science of empathy in the brain and body, and lays out the five key pillars of true empathy. This wise, humane and quietly life-changing book considers how to understand each other, how to care for and love each other, in a timeless examination of questions that affect us all.

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Aimee Cliff is a psychotherapist. She specialises in neurodiversity-affirming and LGBTQ+ inclusive talking therapy. Previously, she was a music and culture journalist writing for the Guardian, Independent, Dazed, Pitchfork and Huck. She was one of the inaugural winners of the Wellcome Collection x Spread the Word Writing Awards.

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'A beautifully observed exploration of what it really means to understand another person' EMMA REED TURRELL

'Sharp, funny and brilliant - a book that needed to be written' DR CAMILLA PANG

What is true empathy?

The classic stereotype of autistic people is that they can't empathise, that they're highly intellectual but find it difficult to connect. As an autistic psychotherapist who empathises for a living, Aimee Cliff knew that this wasn't right. Empathy is something you do, not something you are - meaning it's something we can all get better at, if we choose to practise.

Drawing on the latest scientific research, her clinical experience and interviews with a wide range of neurodivergent people, Cliff examines how empathy works in the brain and body, and lays out five pillars that allow anyone to practise empathy. She finds that empathy is humble, empathy is embodied, empathy is amoral, empathy is radical, and empathy is work.

How to Read Minds offers a new idea of empathy with a more radical and expansive definition. For real empathy fights against constrictive stereotypes and dares to imagine something new. It has the potential to connect and liberate humans across our differences.

This wise, humane and quietly life-changing book considers how to understand each other, how to care for and love each other, in a timeless examination of questions that affect us all.

'Clear-eyed, forensic and humane' Sophie Walker, author of Five Rules for Rebellion