Autorentext

Red DeRooy (any pronouns) is a queer, trans graduate student from Ottawa, specializing in linguistics. Red organizes a monthly poly discussion group, has given both academic and non-academic talks on polyamory, and has been featured in the YouTube series The Poly Diaries. Red has edited several popular-science books, including The Top Ten Diseases of All Time (University of Ottawa Press) and How to Write^Edit Your Scientific Article (World Scientific).

Klappentext

A practical guide to navigating romantic groups with respect and compassion for oneself and others.

Romantic groups can face many of the same challenges as friend groups or professional circles, but these more common group structures are far better understood in the wider culture. Romantic groups that include multiple partners and metamours can be intimidating and initially appear tricker to navigate. Yet they can also provide more diverse support structures, allowing each person to provide according to their abilities while being supported according to their needs.

Nonmonogamy and Group Dynamics explores how to navigate issues in romantic groups and how to come to a compassionate understanding of others and ourselves. A practical handbook founded in real-life experiences, it addresses shifts in group structure, comparisons among members and differences in prioritization, and offers communication strategies and tips for resolving tension. By encouraging the reader to consider their roles and responsibilities and to reflect on their own expectations, this helpful guide empowers the reader to work toward what they want and need from their romantic groups.

Inhalt

Introduction

Prioritization

Hierarchy

Agreements

Categories

Instincts

Working with Overlapping Styles

Expectations

Partner-Bonding Time

Group Intimacy

Privacy and Disclosure

Decision-Making

Cohesiveness

Conflict

Unfounded Insecurity: Use Empathy, Avoid Problem-Solving

Conflicting Needs: Empathy First, Then Problem-Solve Together

Breaches of Trust: Get All the Facts, Then Seek Empathy or Problem-Solve

Controlling Behaviours: Talk to People Outside Your Relationship

Irreconcilable Differences: Knowing When to Walk Away

Shifts in Group Structure

New Group Members

Breakups

Escalations and De-Escalations

Your Romantic Group's Dynamics

Notes

Glossary