When Alex Bollen had her first baby, the fear of being a bad mother made her guilty and anxious. A researcher with twenty years' experience, she went looking for answers. To her surprise the studies she looked at were exaggerated and misrepresented in the media, forming the foundation for what she calls Good Mother myths. These myths are an assortment of narratives, ideologies and stereotypes, deployed to censure mothers and blame them for every societal ill.Incensed by the way bad science is used to shame mothers, Alex Bollen decided to set the record straight. With meticulous research and keen insight, Motherdom exposes both the shaky science and unjustified prescriptions about how mothers should 'naturally' behave. Competing visions of birth - 'natural' versus 'medical' - mean women can be criticised whatever happens, raising the odds that birth will be a damaging, even deadly, experience. Mothers are judged and belittled whether they breast- or bottle-feed their babies. Bogus claims about brain development and dodgy attachment theories mean that whatever mothers do, it is never enough.This has to stop. We must replace Good Mother myths with a realistic approach to parenting. Alex Bollen proposes 'motherdom', a more expansive conception of motherhood, which values and respects the different ways people raise their children. Instead of finding fault with mothers, Motherdom shifts our focus to the relationships and resources children need to flourish.

Autorentext

Alex Bollen is a researcher with over twenty years of experience, including as a former director of the research agency Ipsos MORI. She is a Postnatal Practitioner with the NCT, the UK’s largest parenting charity, and has been running postnatal groups for new mothers in South West London for over a decade. She is the mother of two children.

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Introduction

Good Mother Myths at Work
Why Science Can’t Talk
Birthing Pains
Feeding Frenzy
Attachment Issues
Babies Don’t Need to be Built

Conclusion: Embracing Motherdom