''A must-read for every couple, at any stage of their relationship'' Lori Gottlieb, bestselling author of Maybe You Should Talk To Someone '' Incredibly wise . . . No romantic partnership should be without it'' Jen Sincero, bestselling author of You Are a Badass In Secure Love , Julie Menanno wants you to focus on a different, deeper question than the commonly asked ''What does a healthy relationship look like?'' An expert therapist and founder of the popular Instagram account @TheSecureRelationship, Julie invites us all to consider, what does a securely attached relationship feel like? Moving from the way things look to others to the way they feel, this is a ground-breaking guide to secure attachment in adult relationships. Full of expert advice, Secure Love helps you explore how to increase your capacity for true intimacy. Designed to help you find and sustain love, this book will teach you how to dig into your childhood attachments, label your needs, stay connected during conflict and communicate from a place of vulnerability to build a relationship that lasts a lifetime. ''With Secure Love, you''ll be armed with eternal wisdom for strengthening your relationship. A must-read for any couple'' Dr Sue Johnson, founder of Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples (EFT) and bestselling author of Hold Me Tight ''Compassionate, humane and extremely helpful . . . Becoming a better partner is a lifelong journey, and Menanno''s book is a vital part of that path'' Kati Morton, bestselling author of Are u ok?

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Julie Menanno (MA, LMFT, LCPC) is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist specializing in Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples. She also provides insight and advice for couples at @TheSecureRelationship on Instagram, with over one million followers. She founded and runs the Bozeman Therapy & Counseling clinic, and The Secure Relationship Coaching. She lives in Bozeman, Montana, with her husband and six children.

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What does a healthy relationship look like?

A good question, in theory, but expert couple's therapist Julie Menanno wants you to ask a slightly different one: what does a securely attached relationship feel like?

The answer to this question is the ultimate goal in Secure Love, a ground-breaking guide to secure attachment in adult relationships. While attachment style has grown in popularity to explain the relationship between children and their caregivers, it also helps us understand ourselves in relationships today based on that childhood attachment. How we attach-or don't-ultimately shapes our adult romantic relationship.

Julie Menanno is the couple's therapist behind the popular Instagram account @TheSecureRelationship, which has one million followers dedicated to her wisdom. In Secure Love, Menanno tackles:

• Why you and your partner have the same fight over and over (hint: it's called a negative cycle, and underlying every fight, argument, silent treatment, or passive-aggressive comment is an unmet attachment need).
• The four attachment types, with exercises designed to help you understand your and any partner's attachment style.
• How to improve communication in a relationship, including staying connected during conflict and prioritizing vulnerability-rather than protectivity-in communication.
• "Instead of that, say this" suggested scripts of how to approach difficult situations in a relationship from a more productive and vulnerable stance.
• Why insecure attachment negatively impacts a couple's sex life and how to restore that sexual connection.
  Secure Love is a deep dive in understanding how you show up in a relationship and diagnosing the negative cycles you and your partner may get trapped in. It offers you the chance to learn how to establish and maintain a secure attachment to create a lifelong bond.