The #1 “A beautiful offering from the heart, to the heart.”--Elizabeth Gilbert “Yung Pueblo holds a mirror to the relationships we have and offers clear directions to the relationships we desire.”--Simon Sinek “ Love enters our lives in many forms: friends, family, intimate partners. But all of these relationships are deeply influenced by the love we have for ourselves. If we see our relationships as opportunities to be fully present in our healing and growth, then, Yung Pueblo assures us, we can transform and meet one another with compassion instead of judgment. In • How to build harmony in a relationship • How to see each other’s perspective • How to find the right partner • How to heal from heartbreak • How to overcome attachment • How to form commitments • How to argue Yung Pueblo’s insights on embracing change, building a foundation of honesty, and learning to listen selflessly will resonate regardless of where you are in your healing journey. And his unique combination of poetry, personal experience, and thoughtful advice will help you grow and strengthen all of your relationships....

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Diego Perez is a meditator and #1 New York Times bestselling author who is widely known by his pen name, Yung Pueblo. He has sold over 1.5 million books worldwide that have been translated into over 25 languages. Online he has an audience of over 4 million people. His writing focuses on the power of self-healing, creating healthy relationships, and the wisdom that comes when we truly work on knowing ourselves. He lives in western Massachusetts with his wife, Sara.

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**NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER • The beloved author of Lighter offers a blueprint for deepening your compassion, kindness, and gratitude so you can truly grow in harmony with another person and build stronger connections in all your relationships.

“A beautiful offering from the heart, to the heart.”—Elizabeth Gilbert

“Yung Pueblo holds a mirror to the relationships we have and offers clear directions to the relationships we desire.”—Simon Sinek

“How to Love Better is destined to change your life.”—Lena Waithe

“Everyone enters relationships with imperfections and negative patterns that block the flow of love, but when you embrace growth, the new harmony within you will flow into your relationship.”

Love enters our lives in many forms: friends, family, intimate partners. But all of these relationships are deeply influenced by the love we have for ourselves. If we see our relationships as opportunities to be fully present in our healing and growth, then, Yung Pueblo assures us, we can transform and meet one another with compassion instead of judgment.

In How to Love Better, Yung Pueblo examines all aspects of relationships, from the rose-colored early days when you may be hesitant to show your full self, to the challenges that can arise without clear communication, to dealing with heartbreak and healing as you close a chapter of your life. The power of looking inward remains at the core of Yung Pueblo’s teachings. Ego and attachment can become barriers in a relationship, so the more self-aware you become, the more you can support both your partner and yourself.

How to Love Better includes:
• How to build harmony in a relationship
• How to see each other’s perspective
• How to find the right partner
• How to heal from heartbreak
• How to overcome attachment
• How to form commitments
• How to argue

Yung Pueblo’s insights on embracing change, building a foundation of honesty, and learning to listen selflessly will resonate regardless of where you are in your healing journey. And his unique combination of poetry, personal experience, and thoughtful advice will help you grow and strengthen all of your relationships.

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Chapter 1

How to Help Love Flow

Love is one of the clearest feelings a human being can experience, yet it is too enigmatic to place a concrete definition on. Like trying to grab water with your hand, the exact limits of love are rightfully elusive, but even so, we can get close to giving words to its depth.

Love is a powerful and liberating feeling—­one that radiates throughout your body. Love is a light that can shine brightly from within you even when you are alone, and it is also a light that intensifies between two people when the magnetic feeling between them has proven to be undeniable. Love is an energy that motivates you into action. It helps the mind see clearly and selflessly. Love helps you come in contact with your strength and courage. It helps you say the things you were once afraid to voice. Love can help you say no, and, equally, it can help you full-­heartedly say yes. It helps you clarify what is and is not important.

In the pantheon of human emotions, love stands as the most prized experience. It is something we seek actively and passively. We may seek it in the form of self-­love as a way to heal and free ourselves or in the form of a healthy and nourishing partnership. In either case, arriving at one of these forms of love provides a great level of rest, solace, and happiness to our being. All of the friendships and close relationships we pour energy and attention into are also included in the foundation of our lives. We are relational beings: We not only depend on others for survival but thrive in relationships with others.

Love is not something small. It is the energy of love that often changes lives and even history. Love has the power to break down walls and open doorways. It also has the power to preserve, create boundaries, and make tough calls. Love is deeply personal and highly situational. The way one person loves themselves can be totally different from how another activates self-­love in their life. The way one couple expresses love can be miles away from the next. Even though love can look different for everyone, it always has that warm feeling of safety and freedom when it is brought to life.

The purpose of this book is to deeply explore how love manifests in partnerships and to answer the question, “How can I love better?”

Where We Struggle and How We Rise

The deep truth is that most human beings do not arrive into a relationship unscathed from the ups and downs of life. From childhood to adulthood, life leaves its mark on your mind many times over, and these marks morph into patterns that are often coping mechanisms or defensive tactics you picked up while you were in survival mode. The hurt you have accumulated ultimately shapes the way you perceive reality and can even form walls that have to be broken down so you can fully love yourself and others.

To be able to love your partner well, a deep reckoning needs to happen where you realize that how you love and heal yourself has a direct connection to how you show up in your relationship. The relationship between you and yourself has a clear impact on the relationship between you and your partner. If you want to love your partner better, then you need to develop a two-pronged approach:

1. Improving your relationship with yourself by letting go of the heaviness that your mind carries

2. Working to outwardly shift your behaviors so they can be more conducive to a harmonious relationship

Love is not easy, and it is honestly a lot of work. Love is a powerful mirror where you cannot help but see yourself clearly; it will show you how you have grown, and it will show you in which direction you need to grow next. Being in a relationship is not about living in a constant stream of pleasure. Even the healthiest relationships will be full of ups and downs and …