Choosing a partner is one of the most consequential and tricky decisions we will ever make. The cost of repeated failure is immense. And yet we are often so alone with the search.Partners used to be found for us by parents and society. Now we are expected to follow our feelings - and so locate people by ourselves, according to intuition. This should be an improvement, but our emotions often pull us towards hugely problematic characters and dynamics. How to Find Love explains why we have the 'types' we do - and how our early experiences give us scripts of how and whom we can love.The book provides a crucial set of ideas to help us make safer, more imaginative and more effective choices in love.

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• Presenting a crucial set of ideas from The School of Life core curriculum to help us make safer, more imaginative and more effective choices in love.
• Beautifully produced, premium gift format.
• Part of a new series of giftable essays from The School of Life. Other titles include: Why You Will Marry the Wrong Person; Why We Hate Cheap Things; Self-Knowledge.

• 7.8 million people used dating sites in the UK in 2016 all seeking the answer to the question: 'how to find love.'

  Zusammenfassung
  How to Find Love explains why we have the 'types' we do - and how our early experiences give us scripts of how and whom we can love. The book provides a crucial set of ideas to help us make safer, more imaginative and more effective choices in love.

  Inhalt

  i. Introduction: From Reason to Instinct
  ii. Why We Fall in Love with Particular People
  iii. Our Problems with the People We Are Attracted to
  iv. Improving Our Problematic Instincts
  v. Obstacles to Finding Love
  vi. Conclusion: Realism