From a popular parenting blogger and the author of Positive Parenting , an interactive guide for any parent who wants to foster emotional connection in place of yelling, nagging, and power struggles With more than one million Facebook followers for her Positive Parenting online community, Rebecca Eanes has become a trusted voice among parents who are looking for a better way -- hoping to dial down the drama, frustration, stress and resentment that's all too common in our hectic times. This inspiring and inviting guide walks readers through the process of charting a new path, toward greater emotional awareness, clear communication, and even joyful moments in parenting (remember those?). Filled with encouraging prompts and plenty of room to record your progress, this is a much-needed addition to the positive parenting shelf -- and a companion to some of the most popular parenting guides on the market.

"In The Positive Parenting Workbook, Rebecca Eanes shows parents how to raise confident kids in an emotionally healthy home. Through relatable anecdotes and practical suggestions, Ms. Eanes guides us toward better relationships with our children. She establishes herself as a wise and confident leader—a wonderful example of the kind of parent we all want to be."
--Sarah MacLaughlin, author of What Not to Say
 
"The Positive Parenting Workbook is like walking with a gentle and steadfast friend who understands firsthand what comes with being a parent and who invites you to look at yourself in a courageous and vulnerable way. Based on sound attachment and developmental principles, the book takes parents through a reflective journey on all that comes with caring for our children. On every page the message is clear--the greatest gift we have to offer our kids is becoming the answer to their emotional and relational needs." 
--Dr. Deborah MacNamara, author of Rest, Play, Grow: Making Sense of Preschoolers (or Anyone Who Acts Like One)

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REBECCA EANES is the founder of Positive-Parents.org, creator of Positive Parenting: Toddlers and Beyond, and a contributing editor to Creative Child magazine. She is the author of Positive Parenting: an Essential Guide.

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From a popular parenting blogger and the author of Positive Parenting, an interactive guide for any parent who wants to foster emotional connection in place of yelling, nagging, and power struggles

With more than one million Facebook followers for her Positive Parenting online community, Rebecca Eanes has become a trusted voice among parents who are looking for a better way -- hoping to dial down the drama, frustration, stress and resentment that's all too common in our hectic times. This inspiring and inviting guide walks readers through the process of charting a new path, toward greater emotional awareness, clear communication, and even joyful moments in parenting (remember those?).

Filled with encouraging prompts and plenty of room to record your progress, this is a much-needed addition to the positive parenting shelf -- and a companion to some of the most popular parenting guides on the market.

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Introduction

In 2005, I received a late Christmas gift, the best Christmas gift there could ever be. It was December 26. The gifts from the day before still needed to be sorted and put away. The lights still twinkled on the tree. My feet were bare and cold on the bathroom floor, and my hands were shaking as I held a digital pregnancy test, watching the hourglass spinning round and round. When it stopped, my life was forever changed.

I spent the next forty weeks talking, singing, and reading to the baby growing inside me. As I read the book Guess How Much I Love You, by Sam McBratney, I would rub my tummy in circles and pat whatever little body part poked up. I didn’t exactly know who was growing in there, but— h!— ow I loved him so. I prepared a beau­tiful nursery, which he never used but which was symbolic for wel­coming into our lives a new family member. His name was on the wall. He had a place here already. He belonged.

He was placed in my arms in September, the most beautiful and perfect little boy I’d ever seen. The following two years were nothing short of magical. We played peekaboo and watched Thomas & Friends. I clapped when he learned to roll over, to sit up, to crawl, walk, and run. I marveled at each new word he spoke. We were com­pletely and beautifully connected, this little boy and I. In his eyes, I saw trust.
 
We welcomed another son twenty- six months after the first had arrived, and I was once again totally and completely in love. I thought we’d carry on our days in perfect harmony until they went off to col­lege in the very distant future. But no. Slowly, things began to change.
 
My firstborn, struggling with this overwhelming change in his life, began acting in ways I’d never seen him act. Back then, I called it defiant. I now recognize it as disconnected. In order to get a handle on this defiant toddler, I began putting him in a time- out. I thought this was simply the way of things. It didn’t feel good, but it was just how it had to be, I thought.
 
Eventually, the days turned from being filled with playfulness, joy, and laughter to being filled with tears and time-outs. His behav­ior only worsened during that time. I tried all the tricks. Counting to three. Behavior charts. Nothing made things better. In fact, every time I put him in that little green chair at the end of the hallway, separated from me as I held his baby brother in my arms, he seemed to break just a little more.
 
I just wanted to teach him, not break him.
 
One day, when I saw him sitting there, eyes downcast, chin quiv­ering, tears rolling down his still-baby cheeks, I stopped cold. Sud­denly my eyes were opened to what I was doing, to his grief, to his loss and to mine. I looked into his eyes, and I no longer saw trust there. I saw sadness. My little boy no longer trusted his mommy. Not completely. Not like he had before. Traditional discipline had driven a wedge between our hearts.
 
My son wasn’t defiant. He’d had his world turned upside down, and he didn’t know how to cope. I was the center of his world, and suddenly at least half of my attention, if not most of it, was going to a little baby he’d never asked for. He felt strong emotions, and he couldn’t process them. He couldn’t explain them. All he could do was feel, and it felt really bad. Bad feelings drive bad behavior, which I then punished him for, compounding his bad feelings. It is such a messy cycle, but it’s possible to get out of it.
 
When I finally understood that what he needed wasn’t punish­ment but to simply feel connected to me like he used to, I completely changed my approach. I trashed the green chair and brought him into my lap. I held him and read him books. We colored together. We hugged stuffed animals and talked about better ways to deal with frustration, anger, fear, and sadness. I told him I loved him just as much as I always had, and that my love for him would never, ever change.
 
The brokenness was healed.
 
We built block towers and forts. We painted with our feet. We had water balloon fights. We danced. We sang. The trust returned to his eyes. He and his brother became best friends. There was laughter again. There was joy. There was connection.
 
A strong emotional connection is the heart of joyful family living. Did you know that early attachment relationships shape a child’s de­velopment? Your level of emotional connection with your child is a key factor in his or her own emotional development, creativity, res…