Hello

We know that social connection enriches our lives-so why do we hesitate to connect? There is a fundamental paradox at the core of human life. We are a highly social species uniquely equipped to connect with other people and doing so is better for us. Yet we so often choose to be unsocial. We avoid talking to the stranger who sits next to us. We struggle to move beyond small talk with an acquaintance. We are reluctant to express our gratitude to people we appreciate. Every day, we avoid opportunities to connect with strangers, neighbours, colleagues, friends and family. By missing those moments, we miss out on all the benefits of a more social life-one that is happier and healthier for everyone. University of Chicago psychologist and author of Mindwise , Nicholas Epley has spent his career studying the way we connect, and he has found that our social fears often keep us from reaching out. But bridging the gap between two people is easier than we think-and success is more likely than we imagine. We just have to be a little more social. Epley shows us how to seize the small moments with insights such as: Social connection is a choice we make based on expectations about how others will respond to us-expectations that tend to be overly pessimistic. Introverts and extroverts alike benefit from choosing to be a little more social. Mistaken expectations can cause us to avoid interacting in ways that create strong connections-such as having a conversation-in favor of less satisfying interactions-such as social media or texting. While many books promise one big fix, making a habit of small connections is much more likely to improve your life. The habits and practices that Epley advocates are approachable. The beauty of this book is that small acts have an outsized impact on the most important parts of our lives. Epley draws on decades of research, his own experiences, and the stories of everyday people to deliver groundbreaking conclusions about the psychology behind our social decisions. Hello shows how we can put science into practice and change our lives, one small choice at a time. ...

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Nicholas Epley is the John Templeton Keller Distinguished Service Professor of Behavioral Science and Faculty Director of the Roman Family Center for Decision Research at the University of Chicago Booth School of Business. He is the author of Mindwise: How We Understand What Others Think, Believe, Feel, and Want. He lives with his family in Chicago.

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Leading psychologist Nicholas Epley explains why our social fears are often mistaken and how small acts of connection can transform our lives.

'One of those rare books that might actually change your life' Daniel Gilbert, author of Stumbling on Happiness

We are among the most social species on the planet, uniquely equipped to connect with others. Doing so makes us happier, healthier and more successful. Yet so often we shy away from it - whether that's saying hello to the stranger who sits next to us, or moving beyond small talk with a work colleague, or expressing our gratitude to people we appreciate. Why?

In this inspiring book, psychologist Nicholas Epley reveals how misplaced social fears interrupt our instinct to connect and how to overcome them. Drawing on decades of research, he shows that bridging the gap between two people is far easier than we think and success is more likely than we imagine. Whether introvert or extrovert, we all can benefit from being just a little more social. And as Epley shows, gradually building wiser social habits can ultimately have life-changing results.

'Everyone should read this beautiful book - and learn to use the transformative power of reaching out to build a more meaningful life' Charles Duhigg, author of Supercommunicators

'Truly, Hello might change your life. It's a masterclass in social connection' Angela Duckworth, author of Grit

'This inspiring book will forever change how you see and reach out to other people' Katy Milkman, author of How to Change

'Brimming with insights about how to rediscover the joy of being human' Sonja Lyubomirsky, author of How to Feel Loved