In this powerful new self-help program, Wright and Basco show you how to blend the best methods of scientifically tested treatments to win the battle against depression. By following their step-by-step instructions, you will be able to develop a Personal Plan for Recovery that you can use to get well and "stay" well. The flexible plan lets you learn about and master the Five Keys to Recovery in the sequence that's best for you. Some people may want to work through all five keys; others may find they are able to achieve the level of health they want with just a few. Whether you learn the self-help strategies of cognitive-behavior therapy, rely on prescription antidepressants, try herbal remedies, work on mending relationships, focus on spiritual growth, or use a combination of methods, the Personal Plan for Recovery is a breakthrough tool that allows you to take control of your own treatment. Conversational and filled with guided exercises and strategies that work, "Getting Your Life Back" is an empowering book that maximizes each person's strengths and potential.

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Chapter 1: Getting Started

When you've been feeling down for a while, it's easy to get discouraged. You can begin to doubt that life will ever get easier, that the pain will cease, that the frustration will ever stop. You might think that if you can only figure out how you got this way, you could shake loose from it. So you blame it on your job, your spouse, your weight, your mother, or yourself; but those conclusions don't make you feel any better. In this book you will find answers to your questions about what makes you depressed and keeps you down, as well as specific instructions for how to find your way out of it. The fact that you are seeking a way to greater well-being is a sign that somewhere deep inside a bit of optimism remains. Hold on to that hope and use the Five Keys we present in this book to help unlock the door to your depression.

During our years of clinical practice, we have seen many people recover from depression. Each, with a unique story to tell, has taught us something new about how to overcome adversity. We have found time and time again, that even when all they were able to see were their weaknesses and flaws, our patients were able to learn how to call upon their unique strengths to fight off the symptoms and get their lives back. In some cases, they became even stronger after getting well than they were before their problems began. You'll meet some of these people in this first chapter and find out how they got started to overcome depression.

Michelle had thought her life was going well. She had two wonderful kids, a husband she thought loved her, a good job, close friends, and a home she took pride in. When her husband announced one day that he had fallen in love with someone else, Michelle felt her entire world come crashing down around her. Everything she believed in had failed her. She had failed herself. And now, as she watched herself become more and more withdrawn, losing her connection to all the things that mattered, she knew that she was beginning to fail her children.

I don't know what happened. It seemed that everything was going fine and then he dropped that bomb on me. At first, I thought I could handle it, but as the weeks have gone by, I've seen my life slipping away from me -- my kids, my friends, my self-confidence, and my hope. I feel so ashamed.

This is how Michelle described herself when she began treatment after several months of worsening depression. She had stopped sleeping well at night, had dropped some weight, was having trouble concentrating at work, and seemed to have lost her zest for life. Michelle was nothing like the woman she had been before her husband left. She had stopped singing in the church choir, quit exercising with her friends, couldn't concentrate well enough to read a book, and gave up altogether on the weeds that threatened to overtake her beautiful garden.

These kinds of things aren't supposed to happen to me. I'm not the kind of person who gets depressed. I'm supposed to be the strong one. It's so humiliating. Look at me. I look horrible. I know it's ridiculous to let a man bring me down like this. But I can't help it. It takes everything I've got just to make it through the day. I don't think I'll ever get over this.

Michelle's hopelessness was a symptom of her depression. When her friends and family members looked at her they saw the strong woman who put her husband through school, raised two healthy and happy children, had a deep sense of spirituality, and brought joy into the lives of many people. But, Michelle saw herself as pathetic, weak, and unable to cope. Her friends knew that the real Michelle had only been knocked off her feet -- she had not been defeated. When we see this type of situation in our clinical practices we try to help people look through the curtain of hurt and pain to find their real selves, and then to build on their strengths to defeat depression. The self-help exercises we offer in this book are based on cognitive-behavior therapy (CBT), a well-known, and scientifically proven, method of treatment. We'll show you how to use CBT methods when you learn the details of the Five Keys to Recovery. The goal of CBT is to help people gain a more realistic view of themselves and their world, and to take action to solve their problems. This is one of the ways we helped Michelle.

Medical breakthroughs, particularly over the past ten years, have led to newer and safer pharmacological treatments for the symptoms of depression. These medications can be extremely effective when used as prescribed. Since Michelle had both the physical and psychological symptoms of depression, she opted for a combined treatment approach using both antidepressant medications and psychotherapy. Throughout this book we will show you how to integrate effective psychological and biological interventions, along with those that help you develop healthier relationships and strengthen your spirituality, so that you can leave your distress behind.

Depression doesn't always cause as much pain and misery as Michelle experienced nor does it always require professional treatment. But, everyone who becomes depressed notices definite changes in his or her attitude, mood, and ability to function. Even if you have a mild depression, you'll not be your usual self. It will be harder to get things accomplished and to enjoy life. Your sleeping and eating habits may not be as regular as normal. You may be tense, irritable, or restless and you may tend to think very negatively about yourself and have pessimistic thoughts about the future.

When you are feeling down, your mind can be so preoccupied with worries that it's hard to remember the good times or to think of new ways to fix your problems. You might even miss out on opportunities to change your life for the better. In this book, we want to open your mind to new possibilities that will help you not only to feel better, but to grow in positive ways.

Jeff did this by overcoming a mild depression and making some positive life changes. "I just didn't feel right. I used to get a big kick out of teaching, but something changed and it became a real effort to act like I wanted to be there. I was still doing a decent job. But, I wasn't having any fun, and I started worrying about getting fired. My home life wasn't any better. It seemed like I was just going through the motions. My wife said that I was edgy and irritable with her and the kids. I'm sure she was right. I had to do something about it before it got worse and I turned out like my mother."

Jeff rememb…