Every day, we make hundreds of decisions about how much to disclose about ourselves: our fears, concerns, irritations and desires. But we very rarely think about how forthcoming we should be, or why it matters. For over fifteen years, behavioural scientist and Harvard Business School professor Leslie John has been studying the science behind these decisions we make at work and at home, with our spouses, friends, colleagues and even strangers. Her research shows we vastly underestimate the value of oversharing, and its surprisingly powerful effect on our lives. Sharing more freely impacts our relationships, health and happiness; it can increase our immune functioning, reduce depression and improve our overall sense of wellbeing. Likewise, undersharing can deprive us of opportunities to build friendships, gain the trust and support of colleagues and employees and maybe, even, to find a life partner. Our goal should not be to eliminate vulnerability, but harness its power. This book is a roadmap for figuring out how.

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Leslie John is a behavioural scientist and leading privacy expert at Harvard Business School whose research focuses on how we make decisions. She has been published in leading academic journals and has influenced scholars, companies, NGOs and governments around the world.

She's worked with organisations including Facebook, Goldman Sachs, J.P. Morgan and the Commonwealth Bank of Australia. Her research has also appeared in top media including the New York Times, the Wall Street Journal, Financial Times, and Time Magazine.

A Canadian-born internationally trained ballet dancer, she now calls Boston home.

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'How do you know when sharing yourself is a priceless gift, and when it is an unwelcome burden? Revealing will show you how to answer this question. Essential for work, romance and family' Kim Scott

'Witty, warm, and grounded in science ... an indispensable guide' Katy Milkman

Our goal should not be to eliminate vulnerability, but to harness its power. This is a roadmap for figuring out how.

We know the gut-wrenching feeling: that post-conversation replay, cringing at how much we just revealed. We live in fear of saying too much, so we keep quiet, guard our emotions and lock away our most personal thoughts.

But what if we've been worrying about the wrong thing?

A growing body of research shows we vastly underestimate the value of oversharing, with our spouses, friends, colleagues and even strangers. Vulnerability and openness can unlock some of life's richest rewards: deeper friendships, stronger professional relationships, greater well-being and, yes, even love.

Drawing on over a decade of research and real-life stories, here behavioural scientist Leslie John explores why we hesitate to open up, when sharing really does backfire, and how to strike a balance between too much and too little.

Revealing empowers us to make smarter, bolder and more satisfying decisions about just how much we want to share and why.