**A beautifully designed, profoundly insightful exploration of life’s 20 Questions, featuring original writing by Glennon Doyle, Abby Wambach, and Amanda Doyle and the wisest, most life-changing answers shared with the beloved podcast hosts over hundreds of intimate conversations.

&ldquo;<Throughout our lives we circle around the same 20 Questions, again and again. Inside this book are those questions&mdash;and the answers that saved my life. Life gets easier when we brave the hard questions, together.<&rdquo; &mdash;Glennon Doyle**

We all ask ourselves the same 20 Questions again and again. Among them:

<Why am I like this? How do I know what to do? Why can&rsquo;t I be happy? Why am I so angry? How do I let go?<
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Facing these questions is uncomfortable. The answers are complicated. But Glennon Doyle, Abby Wambach, and Amanda Doyle have learned that life gets <easier< when we are brave enough to name the hard questions and discover our answers. They created this book to make that healing a joyful, shared process.&nbsp; &nbsp;

With its immersive, bold design, <We Can Do Hard Things< overflows with wisdom, comfort, and inspiration. Glennon, Abby, and Amanda describe their own soul-shifting realizations, and share the most transformative lessons they have learned over years of conversations with world-renowned teachers and everyday visionaries. <We Can Do Hard Things< is a gift to be given to friends when you can&rsquo;t find the right words; it is a guide to be passed to the next generation.

As Glennon says, &ldquo;This book is like your most trusted friend who wraps her arms around you and comforts you as she clears your head, calms your heart, and untangles your pain. It is full of the courage, wisdom, and solidarity that healed me, and we created it to be that for you, too.&rdquo;...

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Glennon Doyle, Abby Wambach, Amanda Doyle

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NEW YORK TIMES AND #1 NATIONAL BESTSELLER • The award-winning authors and podcasters Glennon Doyle, Abby Wambach, and Amanda Doyle created We Can Do Hard Things—the guidebook for being alive—to help fellow travelers find their way through life.

When you travel through a new country, you need a guidebook.

When you travel through love, heartbreak, joy, parenting, friendship, uncertainty, aging, grief, new beginnings—life—you need a guidebook, too.

We Can Do Hard Things is the guidebook for being alive.

Every day, Glennon Doyle spirals around the same questions: *Why am I like this? How do I figure out what I want? How do I know what to do? Why can’t I be happy? Am I doing this right?

• The harder life gets, the less likely she is to remember the answers she’s spent her life learning. She wonders: *I’m almost fifty years old. I’ve overcome a hell of a lot. Why do I wake up every day having forgotten everything I know?

• Glennon’s compasses are her sister, Amanda, and her wife, Abby. Recently, in the span of a single year, Glennon was diagnosed with anorexia, Amanda was diagnosed with breast cancer, and Abby’s beloved brother died. For the first time, they were all lost at the same time. So they turned toward the only thing that’s ever helped them find their way: deep, honest conversations with other brave, kind, wise people.

  They asked each other, their dearest friends, and 118 of the world’s most brilliant wayfinders: *As you’ve traveled these roads—marriage, parenting, work, recovery, heartbreak, aging, new beginnings—have you collected any wisdom that might help us find our way?

• As Glennon, Abby, and Amanda wrote down every life-saving answer, they discovered two things:

  1. No matter what road we are walking down, someone else has traveled the same terrain.
  2. The wisdom of our fellow travelers will light our way.

  They put all of that wisdom in one place: We Can Do Hard Things—a place to turn when you feel clueless and alone, when you need clarity in the chaos, or when you want wise company on the path of life.

  We are all life travelers. We don’t have to travel alone. We Can Do Hard Things is our guidebook.

  Featuring wisdom from: ALOK • Sara Bareilles • Dr. Yaba Blay • Kate Bowler • adrienne maree brown • Brandi Carlile • Brittney Cooper • Brittany Packnett Cunningham • Kaitlin Curtice • Megan Falley • Jane Fonda • Stephanie Foo • Ashley C. Ford • Ina Garten • Roxane Gay • Andrea Gibson • Elizabeth Gilbert • Dr. Orna Guralnik • Tricia Hersey • Justice Ketanji Brown Jackson • Luvvie Ajayi Jones • Dr. Becky Kennedy • Emily Nagoski • Esther Perel • Ai-Jen Poo • Cole Arthur Riley • Dr. Alexandra Solomon • Cheryl Strayed • Sonya Renee Taylor • Ocean Vuong • And many others

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  One

  Why am I like this?

  I am a great mystery to me. Understanding why I do the things I do is important to me because the things I do affect the people I love. So I don’t want to live on autopilot. I want to choose carefully which patterns to pass on. I want to break cycles. I want to live with freedom and agency and intentionality. This means I have to look under my own hood and tinker with and examine my programming.

  Responsible adulthood is being both the engine and the mechanic.

  I’m the mystery and the detective.

  Tricky.

  Glennon

  As soon as we’re born, we enter into cultural and familial systems that say: You cannot trust your appetite. You cannot trust your desire. You cannot trust yourself. Since you cannot trust yourself, here’s a list of rules for you to follow instead.

  So we lost vital parts of ourselves. We had to lose those parts of ourselves to survive in families, institutions, and societies that denied us access to our history, power, and innate wisdom.

  For our entire lives we’ve been losing and losing and losing parts of ourselves. So of course we are not fully present now. Of course we are not able to be present in an authentic, whole way. The very path that we’ve taken to survive leaves us here, fractured.

  Amanda

  I am aware now, more than ever, of the boxes I’ve placed myself into—the ones that were introduced to me by my family and by my culture. I consciously stepped into them and closed the lid in order to stay safe, in order to be liked, in order to fit in. Now I’m pushing the boundaries I’ve set for myself so that I can settle into a new acceptance of who I am. It’s almost like I’m stuck in a flowerpot and I’m expanding while it’s breaking. It’s breaking. But in order to do that, in order to break out of my molds, I need to understand what they are and why they were made in the first place.

  Alex Hedison

  I’m like this because I carry the patterns of my family of origin.

  The moment we’re born, we look up at our caretakers. We notice—before we even have language—what makes them smile and come close, what makes them frown and turn away. We notice—and we keep noticing—and then we adapt to survive. We magnify the parts of ourselves that earn us love and protection, and we hide what doesn’t. We know instinctively that we need our caretakers to survive—so we become what we believe they want us to be.

  And then we grow up and one day we look in the mirror and wonder: Why am I still hiding so much of myself? Have I ever even met my real self?

  Glennon

  I became an athlete to get my mother’s love.

  All I really wanted was love, full acceptance, and attention from my mom. But because I had this deep knowing about m…