Informationen zum Autor Eleanor Haley, MS and Litsa Williams, MA, LCSW-C are the co-founders of the online grief community What's Your Grief. Together they run the grief education and creative exploration websites 'What's Your Grief' and 'Grief in Six Words'. Both are mental health professionals with a collective 24+ years of experience working with people coping with all types of complicated losses and life transitions. Klappentext "A collection of lists intended to help readers understand and cope with all forms of grief and loss"-- Leseprobe Introduction Welcome to a Book We Wish You Didn't Need Dear Reader, It's hard to welcome someone to a book like this. On the one hand, we wish you didn't need it. On the other hand, we're genuinely glad you're here. As part-time skeptics, we tend to pick up books (especially self-help books) with caution. Though we don't want to assume that you're equally dubious, we'd still like to provide you with a little background about this book by answering a few key questions. Why did we write this book? As mental health professionals working in the field of grief and lossand as people who've experienced grief ourselveswe've always seen it as our job to help people understand the vast range of emotions and experiences considered normal after loss. That's why we founded the online grief community What's Your Grief in late 2012. Since then, we've written hundreds of articles about grief and loss that are read by millions of grieving people and grief-support professionals each year. We began writing this book in 2020. (And if you don't remember what happened in 2020, this book's life in print is far longer than we ever imagined.) That was a year of major changeof cancellations, quarantines, remote work, loss, loneliness, sickness, and death. It was a year in which everyone's eyes were open to the various shapes grief can take because everyone was experiencing loss on some scale. Still, many people also second- guessed their feelings and wondered, Is it selfish to grieve things that seem minor when so many people are sick and dying? Our simple answer to this question is no. Here's why: Though some losses may seem smaller than others, your losses are valid and worthy of recognition, no matter the size. There's no threshold one has to meet to feel grief-like things. One person's grief doesn't take away from another's. Regardless of the type of loss you've experienced, only you know the extent of your pain and struggle. Your grief is a distinct and subjective experience influenced by many factors. Here are just a few: Grief is a reflection of you and your relationship with who or what has been lost. Loss often sets off a domino effect of subsequent losses. So you're likely grieving a web of interconnected losses. We all experience hardship, stress, and emotion differently. There is no one right way to grieve, there isn't a standard timeline, and there are many (many, many) ways to cope. Thanks to myths and misconceptions about grief, people often assume it's formulaic. They think X type of loss will cause Y amounts of pain. Or they believe they'll simply go through grief 's stages and come out on the other side. But grief isn't predictable or uniform; instead, it's highly variable and individual. The individuality of grief makes it hard to understand, and people often feel thrown when their experience doesn't align with their expectation. It's common to wonder, Is this normal, or am I losing it? But most of the time, the answer to this question is, Yes, you are normal. As the Holocaust survivor and psychiatrist Viktor Frankl wisely wrote in his 1946 book Man's Search for Meaning , An abnormal reaction to an abnormal situation is normal behavior. We can't save anyone from the messiness of grief, but hopefull...

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Eleanor Haley, MS and Litsa Williams, MA, LCSW-C are the co-founders of the online grief community What’s Your Grief. Together they run the grief education and creative exploration websites 'What's Your Grief' and 'Grief in Six Words'. Both are mental health professionals with a collective 24+ years of experience working with people coping with all types of complicated losses and life transitions.

Klappentext

"A collection of lists intended to help readers understand and cope with all forms of grief and loss"--

Zusammenfassung
A friendly and accessible book of 75 lists that will help anyone experiencing a change or loss for readers of Maggie Smith, Cheryl Strayed, and Katherine May from the creators of the popular What's Your Grief website and community.

Leseprobe
Introduction
Welcome to a Book We Wish You Didn’t Need

Dear Reader,
It’s hard to welcome someone to a book like this. On the one hand, we wish you didn’t need it. On the other hand, we’re genuinely glad you’re here.
     As part-time skeptics, we tend to pick up books (especially self-help books) with caution. Though we don’t want to assume that you’re equally dubious, we’d still like to provide you with a little background about this book by answering a few key questions.

Why did we write this book?

As mental health professionals working in the field of grief and loss—and as people who’ve experienced grief ourselves—we’ve always seen it as our job to help people understand the vast range of emotions and experiences considered “normal” after loss. That’s why we founded the online grief community What’s Your Grief in late 2012. Since then, we’ve written hundreds of articles about grief and loss that are read by millions of grieving people and grief-support professionals each year.
     We began writing this book in 2020. (And if you don’t remember what happened in 2020, this book’s life in print is far longer than we ever imagined.) That was a year of major change—of cancellations, quarantines, remote work, loss, loneliness, sickness, and death. It was a year in which everyone’s eyes were open to the various shapes grief can take because everyone was experiencing loss on some scale. Still, many people also second- guessed their feelings and wondered, “Is it selfish to grieve things that seem minor when so many people are sick and dying?” Our simple answer to this question is no. Here’s why:

Though some losses may seem smaller than others, your losses are valid and worthy of recognition, no matter the size.

There’s no threshold one has to meet to feel grief-like things.

One person’s grief doesn’t take away from another’s.

     Regardless of the type of loss you’ve experienced, only you know the extent of your pain and struggle. Your grief is a distinct and subjective experience influenced by many factors. Here are just a few:

Grief is a reflection of you and your relationship with who or what has been lost.

Loss often sets off a domino effect of subsequent losses. So you’re likely grieving a web of interconnected losses.

We all experience hardship, stress, and emotion differently. There is no one right way to grieve, there isn’t a standard timeline, and there are many (many, many) ways to cope.

     Thanks to myths and misconceptions about grief, people often assume it’s formulaic. They think X type of loss will cause Y amounts of pain. Or they believe they’ll simply go through grief ’s stages and come out on the other side. But grief isn’t predictable or uniform; instead, it’s highly variable and individual.
     The individuality of grief makes it hard to understand, and people often feel thrown when their experience doesn’t align with their expectation. It’s common to wonder, “Is this normal, or am I losing it?&rdq…