If you want to change someone''s mind, the fastest way is not to persuade them that they''re wrong. It''s to validate them. A groundbreaking new book from a Stanford University psychologist on behavioural change. Caroline Fleck''s work studies the most up to date research on validation - the affirmation that one understands and accepts another person''s experience as valid. The discovery that validation is a catalyst for change is perhaps the greatest secret in modern psychology. Validation will do what no other book on the market has done by bringing the transformative effects of the emerging science out of academia, and into the lives of everyday people. Specifically, it explains how the validation skills from Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT) that revolutionised psychology can help anyone decrease conflict, strengthen relationships, and drive specific behavioural changes. The profound effects of validation on behaviour are attributable to the fact that it is both a means and an end - it affirms that a person''s experience is valid and unlocks their potential for change. The validation process promises transformation across many areas of life, but the five most proven are: Improved Relationships Decreased Conflict Increased Influence Increased Ability to Drive Behaviour Change *Increased Self-Compassion

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A new and lasting approach to changing others and ourselves, from a world-leading psychologist at Stanford University

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Dr Caroline Fleck is a licensed psychologist, Adjunct Clinical Instructor at Stanford University, and consultant. She received her doctorate in Psychology & Neuroscience from Duke University and holds a B.A. in English and Psychology from the University of Michigan. Dr. Fleck is an expert in evidence-based treatments for individuals, couples, and parents, including Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). She is renowned for her ability to help people make critical but challenging changes and is one of Silicon Valley's most sought-after psychotherapists.

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Unlock the secret to true and lasting change

We all spend a huge amount of time trying to get people to listen to us, and despite our best efforts, we often fail. But what if the secret to influencing others was in first accepting them?

This is known as validation: the communication that one is mindful, understands, and empathises with another person's experience, accepting it as valid.

As both a means and an end, validation has profound effects - from improving our relationships and de-escalating conflict, to increasing our ability to drive change and influence growth in others and ourselves. In this groundbreaking book, Stanford University psychologist Caroline Fleck explains how and why validation is a catalyst for transformation, while taking us step-by-step through the eight skills we can use to communicate it.

With practice, these skills become a way of life, helping us to focus on the possibilities that unfold when we see ourselves and others for who we really are.