Autorentext

Bill Eddy is a lawyer, therapist, mediator, and the co-founder and Chief Innovation Officer of the High Conflict Institute in San Diego, California. He was The Senior Family Mediator at the National Conflict Resolution Center for 15 years, a Certified Family Law Specialist lawyer representing clients in family court for 15 years, and a Licensed Clinical Social Worker therapist with twelve years of experience. He serves on the faculty of the Straus Institute for Dispute Resolution at the Pepperdine University School of Law in California and is a Conjoint Associate Professor with the University of Newcastle Law School in Australia. He has been a speaker and trainer in over 30 U.S. states and 10 countries, in which he's taught his BIFF Response® and EAR Statement(TM) techniques for communicating in writing and in-person to hundreds of thousands. In addition to writing more than twenty books, his articles on PsychologyToday.com have more than 5 million views.

Klappentext

We live in an age of rapid change and instant communication. We also live in a Culture of Blame and Disrespect...

A BIFF Response can be applied in any communication anywhere - online, social media, in a letter or even in person. It can be used at work, earning you respect and success. It can help you get along with difficult family members, friends, neighbors and others anywhere in your life.

BIFF was designed to protect you and your reputation by responding quickly and civilly to people who treat you rudely, while being reasonable in return.

BIFF stands for Brief, Informative, Friendly, and Firm.A BIFF response is easy to remember, but hard to do. It takes practice! This little book gives over 20 examples of BIFF responses for all areas of life-plus additional tips to help you deal with high-conflict people anywhere.
See if you can do a BIFF! Not everyone can!

Author bio:
Bill Eddy is a lawyer, therapist, mediator, and the President of the High Conflict Institute. He developed the "High Conflict Personality" theory and has become an international expert on managing disputes involving high-conflict personalities. Eddy is the author of several books, including It's All Your Fault at Work! and High Conflict People in Legal Disputes.

Testimonial:
"I used Bill to deal with a very difficult personnel situation. I implemented his advice. Instead of pursuing endless, frustrating conflict and confrontation, I adopted an entirely different approach, with excellent results. Bill gave me a pathway when I thought all roads were blocked."
Dan Solin, Author of the Smartest series of books.

Second edition info: This Second Edition includes a new chapter on Coaching for BIFF Responses. Anyone can use this method to help someone else with a BIFF response - by asking 10 simples questions to make it even more effective.

Zusammenfassung

BIFF IS A GAME CHANGER FOR COMMUNICATING WITH PEOPLE WITH HIGH CONFLICT PERSONALITIES

We live in an age of rapid change and instant communication. We also live in a Culture of Blame and Disrespect, creating a need to manage our responses to high conflict people (HCPs). A BIFF Response® can be applied in any communication anywhere: in an email, a text message, on social media, or in a letter. It can be used at work, earning you respect and success. It can help you get along with difficult family members, friends, neighbors, and others anywhere in your life.

BIFF was designed to protect you and your reputation by responding quickly and civilly to people who treat you rudely while being reasonable in return. BIFF stands for Brief, Informative, Friendly, and Firm. A BIFF response is easy to remember, but hard to do. It takes practice! This first book in the Conflict Communication Series is for anyone dealing with high conflict written communications. Complete with instructions in the four-step BIFF method, and numerous practical examples, readers will learn the intricacies of stopping the back-and-forth messages and ultimately contain the conflict. (If you need to use BIFF with a co-parent, BIFF for CoParent Communication is just for you! And BIFF at Work is perfect for workplace communication.)

This Second Edition includes a new chapter on Coaching for BIFF Responses. Anyone can use this coaching method to help someone else with a BIFF communication by asking 10 simple questions to make it even more effective.

Then learn the EAR Statement™ technique in Calming Upset People with EAR for communicating in person (verbally) in high-conflict situations or with any upset person. An EAR Statement can calm an angry or upset person in seconds!

Inhalt

Chapter One
High-Conflict People and Blamespeak

Chapter Two
Writing a BIFF Response

Chapter Three
Avoid Admonishments, Advice and Apologies

Chapter Four
BIFFs for Friends and Family (and Ex's)

Chapter Five
Neighbors

Chapter Six
In the Workplace

Chapter Seven
Business and Professions

Chapter Eight
Organizations and Governments

Chapter Nine
Politicians

Chapter Ten
Coaching for BIFF Responses

Chapter Eleven
You Decide...

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