Stopping the Violence

Help men learn to change abusive behavior! Stopping the Violence: A Group Model to Change Men's Abusive Attitudes and Behaviors helps practitioners reduce the negative atmosphere in a batterers' group for men while adapting to clients' individual needs, abilities, and levels of motivation. Useful in any type of patient setting, this comprehensive, hands-on guide provides a complete, step-by-step model for a batterer program that includes all of the forms, handouts, tools, and assignments necessary for the treatment process. Pro-feminist, cognitive, and behavioral in its orientation, this program works to eliminate the mindset that dominates, controls, and leads to the battering of women. The focus throughout the treatment process described in Stopping the Violence is not only on ending physical violence, but addressing what causes it. The exercises and suggestions in this program will teach your clients how emotional abuse, verbal abuse, substance abuse problems, mental health issues, and entitled and controlling attitudes contribute to and lead to battering. You will also find methods to help clients learn to take responsibility for their actions and discover if their childhoods have had an impact on their assumption of patriarchal and controlling attitudes. In addition, Stopping the Violence offers exercises on building self-confidence, self-esteem, self-control, and emotional support for your clients. This guide offers other valuable suggestions and exercises, such as:

• an explanation of 12 educational units to be presented by the therapist, including such topics as abuse and its effects, anger regulation, stress management, shame and empowerment, assertiveness, communication, and conflict resolution
• showing the client how to and why he should develop an increased realization of the impact of his abuse
• assisting the client in learning to monitor his internal and external escalation-to-violence cues
• creating a supportive group atmosphere that will decrease men's shame and isolation and increase their ability to feel empathy for themselves and others
• providing a reading list with additional resources that clients can use to enhance their treatment Vital to any batterers' treatment that is starting or already exists, Stopping the Violence will help you teach your clients how they can find pride as nonabusive men in a society full of patriarchal values, as well as teach them to be in control of themselves—not their partners or their children. This guide will help you identify and change your clients' abusive behaviors and successfully show them how abusive behavior is hurtful and destructive for everyone involved.

Autorentext

David J Decker

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Contents Introduction  Overview of the Program Chapter I: Group Leadership Chapter II: The Intake Procedure  Part 1: Conducting the Intake Part 2: The Intake Handouts  Understanding Your Anger Types of Abusive Behavior  How Violence May Occur in a Relationship  Using Time-Outs  Domestic Abuse Group Description Escalation Questionnaire--M Abuse Questionnaire--W Safety Plan  Chapter III: The Individual Member Tasks Part 1: Facilitating the Individual Member Tasks  Task I: Introduction Task II: Exercise Program Task III: Individual Member Goals Task IV: Escalation Prevention Plan Task V: Time-Out Plan  Task VI: Abuse Inventory Task VII: Mid-Group Evaluation  Task VIII: Family of Origin and Childhood Task IX: Amends Letter Task X: Aftercare Plan and Final Feedback  Task XI: Violent Incident Assessment Task XII: Violation of Sobriety Contract Assessment Part 2: The Domestic Abuse Group Member Booklet  How to Use This Booklet  Domestic Abuse Group Description  Group Goals, Rules, and Expectations How To Participate in Group  Domestic Abuse Group Members' Tasks: Task I: Introduction Task II: Exercise Program Task III: Individual Member Goals Task IV: Escalation Prevention Plan Task V: Time-Out Plan  Task VI: Abuse Inventory Task VII: Mid-Group Evaluation  Task VIII: Family of Origin and Childhood Task IX: Amends Letter Task X: Aftercare Plan and Final Feedback  Task XI: Violent Incident Assessment Task XII: Violation of Sobriety Contract Assessment Reading List for Domestic Abuse Group Members Chapter IV: The Educational Units  Part 1: How to Use the Educational Units  Unit 1: Abuse and Its Affects Unit 2: Stress and Its Affects Unit 3: Anger Unit 4: Self-Talk Unit 5: Shame and Empowerment Unit 6: Culture of Origin Unit 7: Assertiveness Unit 8: Communication and Conflict Resolution Unit 9: Self-Esteem and Healthy Relationships Unit 10: Parenting Unit 11: Women's Perspective on Abuse and Violence  Unit 12: The Ongoing Recovery Process Part 2: The Educational Handouts Unit 1: Abuse and Its Affects Types of Abusive Behavior  How Violence May Occur in a Relationship Myths About Domestic Abuse Perceived Advantages/Disadvantages of Using Physical Force in a Relationship Effects of Violence and Abuse in Women  Violence, Abuse, and Their Effects on Children Excuses/Justifications for Becoming Violent with Women and Others The Place of Generalized Violence in Our Lives Unit 2: Stress and Stress Management What Is Stress? Changes and Stress Symptoms That Stress Can Trigger Stress Management Techniques Progressive Muscle Relaxation  Stress and the Holidays Unit 3: Anger Understanding Your Anger Anger Analysis Escalation Prevention Plan/De-Escalation Strategies Using Time-Outs Anger Journal  Unit 4: Self-Talk Self-Talk Positive Self-Talk and Anger Self-Talk Log Unit 5: Shame and Empowerment Shame and Empowerment  Shame Signals that Shame May Be Present Potential Effects in Coming from a Shame-Based Family The Cycles of Shame and Empowerment Defenses  Moving Toward Empowerment  Unit 6: Culture of Origin Male Socialization Control  Types of Abusive Behavior Unit 7: Assertiveness Styles of Relating to Others Aggressive Behavior Verbal and Non-verbal Elements of Assertive, Passive, and Aggressive Behavior  Assertiveness Synonyms Assertiveness Grid The Process of Becoming More Ass