Ugly Love

Have you ever felt like a normal discussion

turns into him raging at you, while you cower in

the corner, not certain what just happened

to set him off? Have you felt like you would be

punished if you stand up for yourself? Have you ever

been told you are imagining things and

everyone thinks you're crazy? Have you

been told no one else could ever love you?

Have you been led to believe this is all

your fault?

If you feel like you are living a fairy tale

turned nightmare, then you may be a victim of

narcissistic abuse.

Abusive relationships with a narcissist

follow a specific pattern. There's the

initial stage of love bombing, where he's

prince charming and you are his princess

and soulmate. Then, the debasement

starts. The rules start changing. Just when

you think you know what he wants, the

standards change again. Then he isolates

you. You aren't allowed to see family and

friends. If you do, you are punished with

silence or rancid accusations. Then,

there's the escalation of conversations into

turbulent arguments, only for him to apologize and start

the cycle all over again.

If you feel hopeless, don't. There is a way

out, and your exit plan begins with understanding what

you are going through and how you ended

up there.

Narcissism is a spectrum disorder. A

person can exhibit a few symptoms of

being a narcissist, or enough traits

to be diagnosed with the full blown

narcissistic personality disorder. There's

ambivalence on the part

of psychologists and other experts on

whether a narcissist can change. So, what

do you do? Do you stay or do you go? Can

your partner be the one who changes?

Laura Charanza is a survivor of forty

years of narcissistic abuse. Laura has

worked with psychologists, physicians,

life coaches and spiritual healers to

understand narcissism and a narcissist's

victims. With empathy and transparency, l

Laura tells, first hand, the story of a typical and toxic

relationship with a narcissist. But

understand that there is

a way out, and here is where your journey

to freedom, peace and true love can begin