How Men Think

Informationen zum Autor Adrienne Mendell, M.A. Klappentext "An interesting tool for working with gender differences." --John Gray Author of Men Are From Mars! Women Are From Venus Men at work do it all the time: They brag! cover up their mistakes! pretend to know what they don't! start fights. And they still get ahead! Why? As psychologist Adrienne Mendell learned when she interviewed one-hundred male executives! the traits that women spend their entire lives erasing from their personalities are actually the qualities that men value in the world of work. And since men are still in the power positions! if you don't play it their way! you don't play at all. Based on Mendell's interviews and her experience of counseling hundreds of frustrated career women! How Men Think identifies the seven rules that men learned by playing sports as children--games that excluded girls. These rules may seem simple on the surface! but understanding them as men do is anything but easy. You may have fallen into many of these traps yourself: You're mad because you want your male boss to let you control your projects. But you've got to take control--that's the only way you'll get it. You're steamed because a male colleague consistently takes credit for your work. Do you make a point of touting your accomplishments? When you make a mistake you apologize. But the man you apologize to doesn't think you're polite--he thinks you're admitting incompetence. A fight with a male colleague leaves you shaken. But the men in your office shout at each other for an hour and then go out for a beer. These are the times that try women's souls! The strategies! insights! and eye-opening advice in How Men Think will help you get along better with the boys and propel you to the top where you belong. "The more women have opportunities to play sports the more proficient they will become in competing in this men's world of 'unwritten rules.' To bridge the gap! Mendell's book! How Men Think! is a necessary guide for women working with men." --Diane Everett! Ph.D. Executive Director National Association for Girls and Women in Sport Introduction Nineteen years ago, a friend and I decided to follow one of our dreams. We went off to the Annapolis Sailing School for a weekend course. I fell in love with sailing instantly. The grace of the boats, the feel of the wind, and the sound of the water moving past the hull all gave me a sense of contentment that I hadn't expected. I knew I had to make this sport part of my life. I wanted to become the best sailor I could, and learning to race seemed the most direct way to achieve that goal. I began racing, and at that time I was one of very few women racing on the Chesapeake Bay and almost always the only woman skipper at the regattas I attended. That hasn't changed very much. There are more women involved in racing now, but still few of them at the helm. I had no idea of the profound changes competing in this sport would require of me. It had never occurred to me that all my competitors would be male. By the time I realized this, I was in the thick of it, and much too committed to racing to care. When I first declared my intention to race, one of the racers laughingly said to me, So you think you know how to make a sailboat go. Wait until you try to make a sailboat go fast. I didn't know what he meant. Now I understand why he laughed. Racing is very demanding. I threw myself into it. I read every book I could find about racing. I went to sailboat racing clinics. But when I got out on the racecourse, I just couldn't translate what I had learned into action. I thought I knew a lot. I could quote the books; I knew sail trim, strategy, and all the rules. But it was clear that something else, something I couldn't put my finger on, was happening. The other racers' behavior and responses just didn't make sense to me. Worse yet,...

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Adrienne Mendell, M.A.

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"An interesting tool for working with gender differences."
--John Gray
Author of Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus
Men at work do it all the time: They brag, cover up their mistakes, pretend to know what they don't, start fights. And they still get ahead! Why? As psychologist Adrienne Mendell learned when she interviewed one-hundred male executives, the traits that women spend their entire lives erasing from their personalities are actually the qualities that men value in the world of work. And since men are still in the power positions, if you don't play it their way, you don't play at all.
Based on Mendell's interviews and her experience of counseling hundreds of frustrated career women, How Men Think identifies the seven rules that men learned by playing sports as children--games that excluded girls. These rules may seem simple on the surface, but understanding them as men do is anything but easy. You may have fallen into many of these traps yourself:

• You're mad because you want your male boss to let you control your projects. But you've got to take control--that's the only way you'll get it.
• You're steamed because a male colleague consistently takes credit for your work. Do you make a point of touting your accomplishments?
• When you make a mistake you apologize. But the man you apologize to doesn't think you're polite--he thinks you're admitting incompetence.
• A fight with a male colleague leaves you shaken. But the men in your office shout at each other for an hour and then go out for a beer.
  These are the times that try women's souls! The strategies, insights, and eye-opening advice in How Men Think will help you get along better with the boys and propel you to the top where you belong.
  "The more women have opportunities to play sports the more proficient they will become in competing in this men's world of 'unwritten rules.' To bridge the gap, Mendell's book, How Men Think, is a necessary guide for women working with men."
  --Diane Everett, Ph.D.
  Executive Director
  National Association for Girls and Women in Sport

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Introduction
 
Nineteen years ago, a friend and I decided to follow one of our dreams. We went off to the Annapolis Sailing School for a weekend course. I fell in love with sailing instantly. The grace of the boats, the feel of the wind, and the sound of the water moving past the hull all gave me a sense of contentment that I hadn’t expected. I knew I had to make this sport part of my life. I wanted to become the best sailor I could, and learning to race seemed the most direct way to achieve that goal. I began racing, and at that time I was one of very few women racing on the Chesapeake Bay and almost always the only woman skipper at the regattas I attended. That hasn’t changed very much. There are more women involved in racing now, but still few of them at the helm.
 
I had no idea of the profound changes competing in this sport would require of me. It had never occurred to me that all my competitors would be male. By the time I realized this, I was in the thick of it, and much too committed to racing to care.
 
When I first declared my intention to race, one of the racers laughingly said to me, “So you think you know how to make a sailboat go. Wait until you try to make a sailboat go fast.” I didn’t know what he meant.
 
Now I understand why he laughed. Racing is very demanding. I threw myself into it. I read every book I could find about racing. I went to sailboat racing clinics. But when I got out on the racecourse, I just couldn’t translate what I had learned into action. I thought I knew a lot. I could quote the books; I knew sail trim, strategy, and all the rules. But it was clear that something else, something I couldn’t put my finger on, was happening. The other racers’ behavior and responses just didn’t make sense to me. Worse yet, the other skipp…