Science of Making Friends

The groundbreaking book that puts the focus on teens and young adults with social challenges

This book offers parents a step-by-step guide to making and keeping friends for teens and young adults with social challenges--such as those diagnosed with autism spectrum disorder, ADHD, bipolar, or other conditions. With the book's concrete rules and steps of social etiquette, parents will be able to assist in improving conversational skills, expanding social opportunities, and developing strategies for handling peer rejection.

Each chapter provides helpful overview information for parents; lessons with clear bulleted lists of key rules and steps; and expert advice on how to present the material to a teen or young adult. Throughout the book are role-playing exercises for practicing each skill, along with homework assignments to ensure the newly learned skills can be applied easily to a school, work, or other "real life" setting. Bonus content shows role-plays of skills covered, demonstrating the right and wrong way to enter conversations, schedule get-togethers, deal with conflict, and much more.

• PART ONE: GETTING READY

• Ch. 1: Why Teach Social Skills to Teens and Young Adults?

• PART TWO: THE SCIENCE OF DEVELOPING AND MAINTAINING FRIENDSHIPS

• Ch. 2: Finding and Choosing Good Friends

• Ch. 3: Good Conversations: The Basics

• Ch. 4: Starting and Entering Conversations

• Ch. 5: Exiting Conversations

• Ch. 6: Managing Electronic Communication

• Ch. 7: Showing Good Sportsmanship

• Ch. 8: Enjoying Successful Get-Togethers

• PART THREE: THE SCIENCE OF HANDLING PEER CONFLICT AND REJECTION: HELPFUL STRATEGIES

• Ch. 9: Dealing With Arguments

• Ch. 10: Handling Verbal Teasing

• Ch. 11: Addressing Cyber Bullying

• Ch. 12: Minimizing Rumors and Gossip

• Ch. 13: Avoiding Physical Bullying

• Ch. 14: Changing a Bad Reputation

Epilogue: Moving Forward

Autorentext

Elizabeth A. Laugeson, Psy.D., is a licensed clinical psychologist and assistant clinical professor of Psychiatry and Biobehavioral Sciences at the UCLA Semel Institute for Neuroscience and Human Behavior.

Klappentext
The Science of MAKING FRIENDS This book offers a groundbreaking approach for helping socially challenged teens and young adults make and keep friends. Based on UCLA's acclaimed PEERS programthe only evidence-based approach of its kind in the worldthis accessible book and Video offer the tools parents and educators need to become social coaches to the teens and young adults in their lives. Elizabeth Laugeson, an internationally known social skills expert, provides research-supported:

• **Rules and steps for social skills
• Ideas for parents or other adults to assist in improving conversational skills
• Tips for expanding social opportunities
• Strategies for handling peer rejection and bullying
• Plans for developing and enhancing friendships The book includes chapter summaries for teens and young adults, plus a DVD with video demonstrations that illustrate key skills.More than simply a list of social skills, this book takes readers through an almost chronological journey from how to find a potential group of friends to what to do to make a friend to how to talk to and engage with that persona journey that is well worth taking. CATHERINE LORD, Ph.D., director, Center for Autism and the Developing Brain; professor, Columbia University Coping with the confusing, conflicting, and complex demands of the social world is one of the biggest challenges for those with autism. There is a pressing need for evidence-based interventions to support these young people and Laugeson's book is one of the first to help fill this gap. PATRICIA HOWLIN, emeritus professor of Clinical Child Psychology, King's College London We often think of friendship as more an art than a science, but Laugeson's work proves otherwise. Accurate, concise, and highly useful, the book sets a new standard for translating research into practice. PETER F. GERHARDT, Ed.D., clinical director, The Amal Group, and chair of the Scientific Council of the Organization for Autism Research

Inhalt
DVD Contents vii

Foreword John Elder Robison xi

Preface xiii

Acknowledgments xv

About the Author xvii

Part One Getting ready

1 Why Teach Social Skills to Teens and Young Adults? 1

Part Two The Science of Developing and Maintaining Friendships

2 Finding and Choosing Good Friends 17

3 Good Conversations: The Basics 51

4 Starting and Entering Conversations 97

5 Exiting Conversations 121

6 Managing Electronic Communication 145

7 Showing Good Sportsmanship 179

8 Enjoying Successful Get-Togethers 199

Part Three The Science of Handling Peer Conflict and Rejection: Helpful Strategies

9 Dealing with Arguments 231

10 Handling Verbal Teasing 247

11 Addressing Cyber Bullying 267

12 Minimizing Rumors and Gossip 281

13 Avoiding Physical Bullying 307

14 Changing a Bad Reputation 323

Epilogue: Moving Forward 341

How to Use the DVD 348

Bibliography 349

Index 359